Three Ways to Find Your Authentic Self

Hey there gorgeous! Last time I shared the dangers of comparing yourself to others. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure to find my email in your inbox so you can show up with confidence no matter who you are, no matter where you are, and no matter what your resources. So, let me ask you a question: When you are asked who you are, do you answer with your job — doctor, lawyer, teacher, creative? Or do you answer with a role — mom, daughter, sister, wife? If so, it’s time to rethink your identity because you are not what you do and you are not the roles that you fulfill. So, who are you? Follow the three tips listed below to find out and step into a happy, fulfilled, successful, yummy life.

Who you are NOT

Start by identifying the beliefs surrounding your identity that aren’t true. You are not your clothes. You are not your hair. You are not where you live. You are not what you do.

You are not your bank account. You are not the fabulous handbag that you carry. It may be scary, but you must see yourself removed from everything external. Keep removing anything that has to do with your job or your role or the value that you bring to other people until it’s just you, in all of your greatness, looking back.

Time for a self-discovery journey

Go on a self-discovery journey by asking others for insight, to describe you — but be careful not to look for validation or feedback. Pay attention to what resonates with you. Then, every night before bed, list the words that come to mind when you ask yourself the question “who am I removed from everything external?” Keep adding to the list as you talk to others in your life until you feel satisfied you have found your true self.

Go back to your belief system

If you subscribe to a particular religion or faith, who does your faith say that you are? If you have a hard time coming up with the answer on your own, seek guidance from a leader in your faith. As you find answers, add them to your list as “I am__” statements. It’s important that who you believe yourself to be is informed by your belief system — I mean, if your belief system is important enough to drive your life decisions and shape the way you view the world, it’s important enough to help you define your authentic self!

Remember, this is about celebrating who you are, not placing value judgements on who you believe you should be and whether or not you are living up to that fictional self. So, start your list right now before you get distracted by the demands of your job and your various roles in life. Then, go to my Facebook page and share the ways you are living comfortable in your own skin, solid in the knowledge of who you are.

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